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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



We tried Facebook Dating although it terrified me—here’s just what occurred

Whenever I heard that Twitter arrived on the scene with a dating solution, my very first idea had been why? Dating apps aren’t an issue today, and Twitter Dating is joining the overall game late—with stiff competition. At 22 years of age, extremely little of my buddies utilize Facebook after all any longer, why would young 20-somethings check out it to meet up with brand brand new romantic leads?

I happened to be afraid to try this fresh-on-the-market service that is dating many and varied reasons. Would every person be weird? Would they be 10 years more than me personally and total creeps? I happened to be skeptical, to put it mildly.

Dating apps have not actually been my forte. I happened to be in a severe relationship for four years before graduating from university, therefore I’m fundamentally a new comer to the dating globe as a whole. But after going into the giant dating pool that is new york some time ago, I made the decision to provide online dating sites a shot. I subscribed to Hinge together with success that is mild. By mild success, after all we came across a number of dudes whom really wished to continue fun times rather than the standard, “Let’s grab drinks sometime.”

Hinge man number 1 recommended we drive the Staten Island Ferry at sunset with a wine bottle. (Okay, therefore alcohol had been nevertheless included, nonetheless it had been a date—cut that is first some slack.) The views had been great, and there’s simply one thing intimate about being on a watercraft. Hinge man number 2 recommended that individuals walk over the Williamsburg Bridge for lunch at a restaurant in the water. Romantic, right? Hinge Guy #3 brought us to an obscure indie concert (that I have actually an overall total soft spot for). Therefore, Hinge set my on line expectations that are dating high.

Although these various guys that are hinge great, not site de rencontres gleeden” alt=””> one of them quite stuck, therefore by the full time we found out about Facebook Dating coming on the market, I happened to be available on the market myself. I decided to ingest my fear and provide it an attempt.

Below is my truthful overview of Facebook’s dating function: you’ll think a myspace and facebook with a few associated with brightest minds on earth behind it could understand how to put up an app format that is great. It is not the scenario. Facebook immediately uploads your Facebook profile image as your image that is main on relationship profile (that will be fine), but we literally hadn’t set other things up before little red alerts saying, “so-and-so liked you” started popping up. This really irritated me. We hadn’t entered some of my information yet—let a lady properly curate her online image before tossing her out to the crazy, Twitter! I continued setting up my profile while I ignored the notifications.

Facebook asks one to describe your self in a choice of three words or three emojis that may appear under your very very first picture. The stress!

We decided emojis, simply because they seemed less severe. (if you ask me, this emoji represents your fun character significantly more than literally writing, “fun”, but i really could be incorrect.) Next, you could add your actual age, town you reside in, hometown, task, training, and height—standard dating app info. You could add as numerous pictures while you want, solution as numerous “personality” questions while you want, and sync your Instagram account in the bottom of one’s profile. We opted for five pictures and three concerns. (my own question that is favorite “The track that constantly gets me personally in the party floor is…” The answer is “September” by Earth Wind and Fire, if you worry.) My account ended up being now willing to go—bring in the prospective soulmates!

Filtering matches:

A pleasant feature of Facebook Dating is you could filter the leads the thing is by some basic choices. Those consist of: sex, distance away from you, kiddies or no young ones, religious views, height, and a long time (relieving my initial age-related fear). With my choices detailed, I became willing to scope down some prospective matches. Facebook accompanied with its dating app predecessors’ footsteps and chose to make use of an over-all “X” or “heart” setup. But unlike other apps (ahem, Hinge), you can’t send somebody thinking that is you’re of” a note as an easy way of introduction. You either like them or perhaps you don’t. Individually, i favor having the ability to hit a conversation up with people we “heart”—whether it is by commenting using one of these pictures or responses to prompts—it simply feels more individual as well as designed for getting to learn some body. When you both like one another, needless to say, you’re able to deliver a note. I recently think obtaining the choice to state something next to it is made by the bat better to relate with somebody.

Secret Crush function:

This is when things get interesting. Facebook Dating lets you select one of the Facebook buddies or Instagram followers that you’ve got, well, a key crush on (you can truly add as much as nine individuals). If said crush has accompanied Twitter Dating, too, they’ll be notified that somebody possesses key crush on them. The catch: They won’t understand who you really are unless they add you as being a key crush of the very own accord, too. Bogus.

If you’re gonna make the jump and inform some body you really understand in actual life that you’re into them, they must be notified. Otherwise, when they happen to have a crush on you too, and this defeats the whole point if they have no idea you’re into them romantically, chances are, they probably won’t tell you. We consider this an opportunity that is missed and I also chose to choose from this feature.

My experience:

When I began combing through prospective times on Twitter Dating, we noticed a layout. Perhaps this can be just appropriate when it comes to a long time we selected (22-30), but there clearly was an array of mirror pictures, flexing pictures, and selfies (a great deal occurred in automobiles). Phone me personally particular, but if you post some of the aforementioned, I’m gonna provide you with a big ole “X.” It simply comes down as arrogant if you ask me. I found myself striking X after X after X.

Another X that is automatic is only able to consist of one photo. I don’t think Facebook should allow you to do this—i am talking about, most of us look amazing in one or more image, appropriate? However it does not really show whom you are actually, and in addition comes down as sort of sluggish. Another automated X: You don’t respond to any of the questions. Um, hello, where’s your character? Does it occur? This can be another thing we don’t think Facebook should allow individuals do—but I guess it is the person’s option the way they elect to go off.

Ultimately, after scrolling through too many posed gym selfies, we began speaking with a man whom seemed pretty normal. He had been a small bit older than me, super into traveling, and truly seemed thinking about getting to understand me personally. After several days of texting, he went for the typical, “Wanna grab drinks?” I’ll acknowledge, i did so have an eye-roll that is brief (those Hinge Guys set my objectives high), but I made the decision to offer him a go.

Facebook Dating Guy and I also had a very good time at a cool club in an integral part of the town I’d never been to before, which itself made the night worth it in it of. Is he my soulmate? No. But he had been a nice man whom supplied a great night, and I also guess I have Facebook Dating to thank for the.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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