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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



Individuals who state long-distance relationships don’t work have demonstrably never ever held it’s place in love

I’m perhaps maybe not the very first individual to think a international accent is sexy. I’m additionally maybe perhaps not the very first individual to have experienced a relationship with somebody while travelling or residing abroad. Much more adventurous souls pack their bags to get life an additional the main globe, whether that is a working vacation visa, learning abroad or just extended travel, dropping in deep love with some body from a different country is not a notion that is crazy.

The trip of checking out brand brand new places with a partner is invigorating: all things are new and you’re in both a major vacation duration when it comes to relationship and life satisfaction. However when it comes down towards the tearful goodbye at the airport and also you’ve taken the huge choice to continue cross country, how will you make it work well?

Here’s my back story: I’m a girl that is british met A us child once we had been both learning abroad in Melbourne, Australia. After simply 3 months together, we decided we might carry our relationship on cross country once we both needed to go back to our home universities. I ended up being based mainly in London, British and then he was at Boston, United States Of America. We invested significantly more than couple of years doing distance that is long now, nearly 5 years into our relationship, we’re residing together in Toronto, Canada.

We were met with a lot of criticism while we were doing long distance. Individuals freely informed me it could never ever work and seemed down from the relationship as though it wasn’t a relationship that is‘real. We all know whom our company is, just just what our relationship means, and simply it any less filled with love or hope than anyone else’s who is lucky enough to live in the same apartment or house because it’s long distance doesn’t make. Fast ahead to now, and individuals often ask me questions regarding exactly how we managed to make it work – a number of these individuals because they’re in a situation that is similar.

Just what exactly may be the key? I in no way have actually all the answers and there’s no set recipe for everyone (exactly like such a thing in life). It absolutely was definately not hanging around, however these would be the tips that, after much error and trial, I can state struggled to obtain me personally.

To start with, ensure you’re both completely invested in not just one another but offering it a go. There’s no room if you are half-hearted about you’ve got to be pretty damn sure whether you like your prospective long distance partner enough.

You additionally have to know directly off that it is difficult and a curve that is learning. There are many arguments, some rips, but a lot that is whole of.

Correspondence is key. You’re going right through a hard thing if you want discover a pattern that actually works as you don’t have the advantage of face to face conversations, being upfront about your concerns is the number one priority for you, and. My boyfriend and I additionally made yes we put aside days that are certain times we might Skype every week which we’d need certainly to organize around our time huge difference (great britain being five hours in front of Boston) so we both downloaded Whatsapp and would text one another during the day. Having the ability to visualize each routines that are other’s texting about tiny things in the day assisted us feel nearer to the other person.

Whenever it found seeing one another, we did just as much as money and time permitted for a transatlantic relationship, frequently around as soon as every 3 months. My boyfriend, being US, didn’t get time that is much from work and I didn’t (ahem, still don’t) have actually much cash. The longest we went without seeing one another ended up being five months. These people were actually tough, but I discovered the secret would be to just forget about it being long-distance.

As soon as you accept just how it’s and know very well what you’re working towards (being when you look at the country that is same preferably the exact same town, too), it is all worth every penny. That’s everything we constantly thought to each other: this, us, is all beneficial. Plus, we now have some pretty amazing activities in the entire world offered the nature of our relationship. Together we’ve surfed in Bali, gone skydiving in California, toured waterfalls in Iceland, feasted on mussels in Belgium, pitched multiple tents under dark, starry skies and drank champagne on a sand club when you look at the Bahamas. Often it absolutely was a joy to express: “so where within the world should we get together next?”

Booking that next trip whenever you have to see one another is really so healing to getting through the section that is next of aside

It’s very easy to feel a large amount of frustration in a cross country relationship – whatever you see around you might be partners to be able to invest a single day together plus it’s quite simple getting bitter and feel their pleasure gets shoved down your neck, therefore once you understand whenever you’ll next see one another is a simple method to dial those feelings down.

Reminding myself associated with the next see and just how much enjoyable we now have together ended up being adequate to have me through. Anyone who’s been through a cross country relationship|distance that is long} knows the love-hate relationship with airports: a host to extreme delight and leaping into each other’s hands, having the ability to feel that yes, they have been genuinely genuine; yet additionally the (just appropriate public) destination rips stream down see your face whenever saying goodbye *cue Coldplay music*.

just What it basically comes down to is it: them, you will do what you can to be with them if you really like this person, love. Also you out and you think you can’t carry on if it means a six-hour flight, only seeing each other on Skype for three months at a time and the worst part, getting into arguments when long distance is really stressing. It is when you look at the tough moments similar to this which you count on and support one company website another: whenever one of you is down and struggling, your partner attempts to not panic and keeps one other afloat, reminding them why you’re carrying this out and exactly how worth every penny this can all be when you’re finally together.

Whenever I look straight back in the two-plus many years of cross country, I’m proud of just what we’ve done. I remember just how painful it absolutely was in some instances – a few of near break-ups, one real break-up – but I additionally knew my stubbornness powering through, I had clicked with when I met him, who made me laugh and had very similar music taste and political views as me that it would all work out in the end, was for good reason: my boyfriend is someone. He liked adventure, travel and nature yet ended up being laid straight back and thoughtful. If that is maybe not a match to fight for, I don’t know very well exactly just what is.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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