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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



I continued Tinder for a week – and this happened

One man have sex toys as his or her shape photograph, another claimed ‘I would like to perform worst items to a person’

Proclaiming that, worries before long upped right after I accidentally super-liked a couple of members of the space regarding the earliest hour. Maybe not best.

From beginning I know Having been never ever gonna encounter anybody – but when I begun swiping i possibly could see what in order to prevent:

1. Consumers without shape photos.

Precisely why do you really certainly not show your look?

2. those that have peculiar member profile photographs.

I determine from a set of sex toys to an insurance quote that look over ‘I have to perform poor items to an individual’ to a meat nugget. An authentic poultry nugget. Not one that stimulated us to swipe best.

3. men and women that got his or her definitely his or her trousers in images.

4. those who are available about wishing hook-ups inside their bios.

If you enjoy a six pack – you will see most of them on Tinder. There are a lot of guys exactly who put nude pics of themselves or splits of these working-out at the gym.

A great deal also submitted selfies with regards to their canine (I realize what you’re wanting manage!) and teens, prior to rapidly mentioning they were their nephews or nieces (“Hey, i enjoy teenagers but There isn’t any of personal”).

Within my quick stint, I had a couple of demands to incorporate guys on Instagram but we beautifully rejected.

What I realized most fascinating is that many folks don’t really talk on Tinder.

At the time you match with customers there exists seldom an instantaneous connection – most likely your go well with and that is it.

I asked a colleague, just who actually came across the man on Tinder, when this am standard and she believed ‘Yeah – a small number of anyone actually chat.’

This confused me because, during head, Tinder was also someplace for people who may possibly not be normally self-confident to start talking-to consumers and encourage them construct relations. But seemingly certainly not.

It is also rather time-consuming. You have to commit a minimum of a hours of your respective week swiping in order to satisfy one or two people that in fact support good discussions. This is often a thing I recently uncovered really difficult after a lengthy day at perform.

At the beginning it had been quite fascinating – the nosey half individuals starts to consider people you’re friends with, you start to speculate what kinds of someone you’ll see i assume after you match with individuals it really is great to consider a person is looking into you.

But a piece of me managed to do experience a bit sad because inevitably I had been getting evaluated on which we appear to be.

Almost nothing annoyed me personally over an individual made an effort to get started on a discussion by delivering the heart-eye emoji or, worse, the fire emoji. It does not cause you to feel excellent and really isn’t a superb dialogue starter.

On the other hand the experience additionally popped my own vision into good part of internet dating software, which I was actually probably too strong to judge earlier.

A number of people which established chatting if you ask me happened to be great and has take time to reach learn myself – from everything I did for a job from what my own hobbies are as to the the perception of a very good date was.

It had been obvious that many of us had in addition browse my bio along withnot just viewed my own look and swiped.

This proves discover people that utilize the app who genuinely need satisfy individuals – it’s not only lots of men and women searching for effortless intercourse.

You can even recognize how the application is a great device for older people – especially solitary fathers, just by their unique amounts.

Once I put the age array for our profile we selected the top age as 40 because I want to to discover recommended regarding the range of men and women that put it to use. Countless males within later 30s emerged – and some caused it to be fairly apparent which they have kiddies.

When you have kiddies or a stressful efforts living or you travel a good deal, it’s probably many difficult to generally meet people.

For individuals who don’t go forth a lot actually a great way to see other people to find just what women can be available.

So there bring, as you can imagine, already been successes before.

So much men and women have discover long-lasting couples on Tinder where have-been quite a few Tinder wedding parties these days.

Way back in 2017 there clearly was the Welsh lady who had been preparing to take a trip 11,000 miles to get married their optimal ‘Tinder accommodate’ . Correct a technical mistakes, the app presumably matched up the with rel=”nofollow”> men from Swansea – in brand-new Southward Wales.

Jessica Maverick matched up with Steve Collins of the online dating software but Steve stayed in Queensland while Jessica lived in Cardiff – while both of them specify their particular pages discover prefer interests within a 100-mile radius.

Though the glitch was actually called are ‘the best thing that gone wrong to them’, because they ended up decreasing in love through a series of information and Skype phone calls.

While it’s wonderful to find out there are some Tinder successes, I couldn’t read myself personally choosing the love of living on Tinder.

The feeling shown me personally that we now have some really good aspects to online dating services, but we actually realized practise fairly draining after about two days.

Should you be in an area in life in which you really need to end up being with anyone, and you are ready spend time appearing, We have surely that you could produce Tinder manage – in the event that you swipe for the ideal individual, as you can imagine.

But since you’re not that frustrated, not really.

You will need to commit considerable time to swiping and, even more important, you must devote considerable time to those.

In some cases I struggled you should want to speak to a single person for over 60 minutes so I can simply think about exactly how stressful it needs to be for people who have a discussion with numerous consumers simultaneously.

The distressing the truth is that whenever the clock strikes 9pm I like to be in mattress viewing a motion picture or reviewing an ebook – maybe not attempting to complement group on Tinder.

Hence, the advantages likely guess, the application has now recently been deleted from our phone. But maybe that’s why I’m unmarried whilst others in their mid-twenties tend to be answering their own diaries with schedules.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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