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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



Here Is Why Tinder Men Think Their Fish Pics Will Attract Us In

Dear Brand New Romantics,

Being a bisexual, feminist woman, we frequently just take the luxury of establishing my dating apps, when utilizing them, to exclude guys. Wading through the murky waters of finding social justice-oriented men who are able to handle significantly more than “hey, beautiful” as being a company site message that is first too precarious.

But every occasionally, after days of Tinder telling me I’ve run out of people to swipe on, I start my settings to males.

And I also have always been barraged. With seafood.

One seafood, two seafood. Red seafood, blue seafood. Big seafood, tiny seafood. Water seafood, pond seafood.

And I also thought possibly we noticed this trend that is bizarre because I’m vegetarian. Or because I find sport searching atrocious. Or — we don’t know — because we do not have comprehension of or affinity for right, white, male tradition. But no. It’s not only me.

Based on a 2018 study by Fishbrain (um, it’s a social networking platform for fishers?), 1 in 10 males in San Francisco hold seafood within their Tinder profile photos. In nyc, it’s 1 in 20. In Florida? An impressive 1 in 5 males have a buddy that is fishy their pages.

But for f*ck’s sake, why?

Well, let’s begin with knowing the technology behind mate attraction and selection. “Mate attraction” describes why and just how we’re attracted to other individuals; “mate selection” is the reason why and just how we choose lovers.

Most of exactly how technology discusses those two associated phenomena is located in evolutionary biology and psychology. This is certainly, why have we developed desire for particular faculties with time, and just how does that help propagate the types?

But sociology additionally plays a essential role in who we find attractive and opt to date. So let’s take a good look at just how these overlap.

You’re probably taking a look at your laptop or smartphone today like, “Duh, woman, it is about supplying. when you have also merely a cursory knowledge of evolution,” And you’re right!

The idea of supply — the basic proven fact that some one can provide one thing practical for the usage — is seen all over dating apps in the event that you really look. That suped-up automobile, fancy precious jewelry, or company suit? That babe will need to have money… which they could fundamentally share beside me.

And a seafood pic? I will get given!

The latest Yorker also joked about any of it in 2017, posting the satirical piece “I have always been a Tinder Guy Holding a Fish and I also will offer for your needs.” With my love in accordance with my fish. inside it, author Amy Collier jests, “During our time together, you’ll never get hungry or fear famine… i shall maintain you”

A potential mate’s ability to provide for you (as well as your children and extended family or community) is indeed an attractive quality from a practical standpoint as famine has been, and continues to be, a legitimate survival concern across the country and around the world.

Like, we don’t learn how to seafood. If We had been unexpectedly tossed into a scenario that is apocalyptic which my only choice for sustenance ended up being fresh-caught salmon, I’d be screwed. Developing an alliance with some body with bear-like fishing abilities could be the only method we could endure.

In addition to deep emotional relationship of a mate would recommend that i possibly could rely on them to help keep me personally alive for the stretch. (Note to self: sign in together with your lovers to see if either of these is able to seafood.)

Needless to say, those of you whom simply take biology by having a grain of sodium already know just that much of this extensive scientific studies are launched on cisheteronormative presumptions: a guy by having a penis offers a lady having a vagina, and together they create a lot of individual children who the lady takes proper care of as a hey, many thanks! for the seafood.

Additionally the more we believe in this biological description — and address it as infallible truth — the greater amount of this concept asserts itself and becomes ingrained both in society’s assumed guidelines and our minds. I enjoy call this “evolution as socialization.”

We’re told that guys are biologically hardwired to give you with regards to their families, so we anticipate it — so when such, needless to say guys would like to signal their abilities to possible partners.

Yes, biology constantly leads to our actions: the standard, ancient element of our minds is concentrated on success. So much of that which we do originates from this foundational spot. It’s a good idea that, even for a level that is deeply subconscious males might publish seafood photos to poke at a primal instinct in those swiping on it.

But on a level that is conscious within the components of their minds where effects are believed and choices were created, males have actually other explanations for why they be determined by fish pictures inside their dating profiles.

Final April, for Elite everyday, journalist Elana Rubin proceeded a quest: She purposely matched with those she’s dubbed Men” that is“Fish to them why — oh, why — they make use of these images on dating apps. She caught (haha, obtain it?) just six of these, however a half that is full it had been because fishing had been vital that you them.

One explained, so it is a geniune phrase of me personally.“ I am a specialist fishing guide…” Another said, simply, “I get fly fishing each day. It’s one of my interests.”

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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