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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



For the ideal globe, we’d never ever find people who plan to harmed people.

Lord doesn’t would like you being surrounded by individuals who rip we straight down.

Unfortuitously most people reside in a decreased globe that is full of shattered someone, and problems and distress is destined to arrive at all all of us. Sin try considerable, and for that reason, harmful and abusive relationships include established. Christians commonly safe from finding by themselves stuck in these scenarios. Periodically, we get ended up within these poor interactions and rounds of behavior.

A healthier romance is one through which absolutely oneness of dreams, intent, beliefs, and notions. Hazardous dating, but are frequently one-sided and sometimes rude. Dangerous affairs may occur between contacts, family members, colleagues and intimate dating. God’s term lets us know “where envy and self-seeking exist, frustration and every evil factor how about” (James 3:16). These types of interactions are not directed by Lord, given that they push negativity and serious pain to most involved.

If We Are Toxic

Most people are sinful on some standard of becoming rude or hazardous to other people at some time. As human beings, we are going to are not able to live up to Lord’s expectations. The opportunity to harm has to do with sin and the innate tendency toward selfishness (Romans 3:23; Jeremiah 17:9). Folks who suffer from accepted the need for a Savior admit that simply adore on his own, Jesus Christ, can overrule the selfishness, changing they into actual fancy (Romans 8:10). We have a duty to care for and appreciate others—not cause damages (John 13:34; Exodus 22:22; Isaiah 10:2; 1 Thessalonians 4:6).

Christians that induce harm to people take into account that they have to repent because of their errors, and apologize because of their measures. When we finally have a look great in to the echo, we can realize that we have been those who incorporate some unhealthy propensities that goodness wants to change. We have to end losing amount of time in hazardous forms of dwelling, because He possess best waiting for you for us.

As Soon As People Become Harmful

God don’t desire people to be if we are in a toxic union. The reason spend your time, effort, and assets searching for approval from people that are therefore wrapped upwards in themselves they can’t fit anybody also within resides? Exactly why invest their religious presents on those who aren’t admiring the person who resides inside your?

If someone that you know was toxic for your psychological, spiritual, or real fitness, usually the wisest purchase is to place far between both you and them. God’s finest want should specify you complimentary, and often meaning facing a person and mentioning “stop, eliminate” and moving on.

In Galatians 4:7-10, the Apostle Paul admonishes the church for taking note of someone that ended up being distributing deception and trembling individuals trust in God. He communicated rather severely upon the troublesome people also (Galatians 4:12). Paul keeps going to say that appreciate could be the better option, but that point are required for “if an individual bite and use one another,” you’ll find yourself harming both a great deal even worse (Galatians 4:14-15).

Being mad and frustrated by a poisonous scenario, relationship happens to be flawlessly standard. Typically, often all of our mind’s approach to alert us to the fact that some thing is extremely incorrect. If you are in a toxic environment, there is no need to “get always they” or “merely conquer they.” God would like you to take out yourself from these situations.

The answer to thus, making this range tasks are in order to prevent indulging in your outrage or bitterness. We mustn’t reply by gossiping or ridiculing a person (I Peter 3:9, Two Corinthians 12:20) regardless of what a great deal these people harmed you. Rather, we need to start with constructing a stronger and better relationship with Him to help you us all eliminate and advance. Sometimes, it’s advisable to react to poisoning by-turning the second cheek (Luke 6:29). Soemtimes, you can repay bad with excellent (1 Peter 3:9). We have to often aim to forgive though (Mark 11:25) as Jesus achieved for us. If you are having problems searching out the will to forgive, hope if you mistreated you (Luke 6:28, Romans 12:14, Matthew 5:44).

Psalm 147:3 informs us that goodness “heals the brokenhearted and bond up their particular injuries.” Just goodness’s healing strength can really return serenity to a broken or traumatized emotions. Around we need about the hazardous individual would apologize, there are various time exactly where that only are not going to occur. Best Lord can certainly relieve us all exactly where we’ve escort in Gresham been shattered.

Ending these sorts of interaction can be extremely scary, and also the people may well appear in fury. Faith Jesus that will help you recognize any time a relationship happens to be harmful towards your sales, your spirituality, your health of the family life. Further rely on him or her to give you the bravery to end the relationship, in order to supply thick adequate your skin taking the judgments that you may deal with for close the relationship.

Lord really warns north america of the many different kinds of poisonous group we possibly may come across in the day-to-day lives.

We are now probably be confronted with a deadly relationship at some point in life. This could be someone quite alongside all of us, like our very own parent, or a person in management just like a boss. What you may face, keep in mind that these interactions are certainly not a blessing from Lord. Whenever the satan must tear one along, he will probably submit visitors to accomplish. Discover that these behaviors usually are not nutritious, and would what is essential to clear away by yourself from scenario.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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