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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



Exactly how will be the dynamics of lesbian dating distinct from a marriage’s?

Lots of relationships have got troubles and “skeletons inside shoebox” also. Therefore just generally speaking, how do they seem different? Possibly much more dilemma, extra despair in lezzie interactions? And what is the essential thinking that you have gotten to that might result in the change?

Since then we wrote, i’ve been planning your own problem and talking

The core problem is trying to drive a same-sex connection, where the God-designed complementarity lacks, into a marriage-like connection designed for balances. There’sn’t any. The weaknesses and strengths of female and male are merely gone, therefore all you have are the same talents and same weaknesses.

Including, most of us ladies are intended to get relational; men are further task-oriented by design. Jointly, consequently facts get done in a context of people’s spirits mattering. In lezzie connections, it’s A Look Into the connection. And since a piece of lesbianism is definitely a strong heart of anxiety, women are run by worry to secure the relationship no matter what, lest an additional people even think of exiting. Which means that joining one another to oneself with gift ideas, mementos, music, contributed everything such as financing, and consistent phone each day (and anxiety after the more doesn’t behave instantly).

I have a golf ball comprising magnets for and put jointly by magnetic destination. The direction from the parts with regards to friends affairs because some components are attracted to oneself, in case your flip a components, the magnetized polarity starts these to repel each other. You can also make all of them touching, however need to incorporate an power to retain these people together. God designed women and men is drawn to both as well as to put along obviously, much like the north and south posts of magnets, in large part since all of our dissimilarities. Any time same-sex couples make an effort to create a romantic, romantic/sexual relationship, it is like two north posts or two southern area posts of a magnet, so they have to use an energy to ensure that they’re with each other. That’s why treatment might stuff of psychologically centered associations. One long-time lesbian stated, “We don’t have actually associates, we now have convicts.”

More lesbian-identifying women are affected by a yawning “hole” in their heart, either a mommy-shaped ditch or a best-girlfriend fashioned hole. Thus, the tourist attraction, unlike with magnets, may be the chance to obtain an aching psychological demand fulfilled. Somebody of mine who has been hiking with same-sex-attracted everyone for several years dubs that aching emotional want “giant deep throating funnels.” Another friend referred to it “two clicks, no pet.” And one of my pals achieved a fifty-something girl at a gay club exactly who really said, “I want you to be your mama.” These people you will need to products additional ladies into that opening, and yes it never will work. That’s because when a girl’s legit developmental requires may not be satisfied at their unique proper point in life, it’s impossible for an additional human being to complete these types of a large gap. But Jesus can, and that I have seen Him get it done, through his or her consumers and through individual intimacy with Jesus.

Another difference in the characteristics of husband-wife relationships vs. lezzie associations would be that whenever people work at obtaining emotionally a lot more healthy, getting their particular wedding into alignment with God’s text, they beefs up the marriage and builds oneness between two very different, very “other” anyone. If two girl to girl girls focus on obtaining emotionally a lot more healthy, this means de-tangling and disengaging from the enmeshment that defines her union and tries to erase the perimeters of who they are separately. Should they take their particular relationship into position with God’s phrase (Rom. 1:26), they might not end up being lezzie couples.

I do will need to add some a disclaimer, there has become significant age-related sea modification.

However, the same as their senior counterparts, these associations will always be unstable, extreme, drama-filled, and incredibly hard extricate from. Envy and adjustment (especially shame) happen to be significant aspect. Whatever the age, same-sex enchanting and sex-related dating will not be God’s intention or design, so that they don’t work efficiently.

We asked about simple essential reason for my results; merely watching, week on week after few days for 14 several years, precisely what these teenagers and lady report about their commitments and ways in which hard it is to recover from a lezzie identification, is fairly catholicmatch the education. Especially when we contrast it to what i am aware of God’s statement combined with the connection with experiencing a structured, nutritious union for 38 several years.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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