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What About the Other 90%??

If a woman is on her back 10% of the time, what is a man bringing the other 90% of the time? But, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. This book provides tools for women to deal with the undertow that undermines the very thing they say they want.

By Chanda R. Mitchell

EBOOK/ISBN-ISBN-13: 978-0615739328
USD: $14.99/CAD: $17.99

ON SALE: April 1, 2021GENRE: Nonfiction/Personal Growth/Self-Improvement/Spiritual Growth



A mericans want to tout the significance of ready and waiting until nuptials to own gender.

You say abstinence-only knowledge in education across the country, plus comprehensive sex-ed systems frequently show that “abstinence is better.” Popular performers from Britney Spears to Jessica Simpson, around the Jonas siblings, to Miley Cyrus, to Justin Bieber typically assert that they can be looking ’til nuptials – placing all of them into the Good Role unit class (a minimum of, until someone leaks a sex record). Definitely a flourishing “purity sector”, complete with jewellery, intricate functions, e-books, tees and DVDs.

All of our state and federal tax funds have long already been spent providing “chastity”. While old-fashioned commentators are pleased to say that prepared until matrimony is better selection for folks and people who don’t wait aren’t carrying out nuptials “appropriate way”, sex-positive liberals hesitate to say that having sexual intercourse before wedding are an equally legitimate – if you are not much better – option for everybody.

Here it goes: having sexual intercourse before marriage is best choice for nearly everyone.

How does someone determine? Properly, first of all, nearly everyone possess intercourse before relationship – 95percent of People in america don’t hold back until their particular wedding ceremony nights. And that is certainly a longstanding American importance. Even among individuals with my grand-parents’ era, nine off ten of them received love-making before the two wed.

Needless to say, just because plenty of people would some thing doesn’t mean actually a very important thing. But intercourse was. When it comes to well-being, sexual intercourse is much better than revenue, and having love-making once per week versus once a month certainly is the “happiness comparable” of extra $50,000 a-year. Those that have energetic intercourse life alive more. Intercourse secretes concerns, boosts immunities, can help you sleeping as well as wholesome.

Love excellent whether you’re wedded or otherwise not, and undoubtedly folks who hold back until relationship might have some love-making whenever they get married. But prepared until marriage can indicate both first union and old-fashioned views on nuptials and gender – and those that get married early on and/or maintain traditional looks on marriage and gender tend to have larger breakup prices and unhappier marriages. We understand that, conversely, there are various advantages to marrying afterwards as well as to gender-egalitarian marriages. Couples that both function outside of the home plus talk about cleaning duties have significantly more sexual intercourse. Economically separate, college-educated women who marry down the road posses excessively lower split up charges.

The reality is that feminist principles – not just “conventional” data – result in the most dependable relationships. And feminist looks plus future relationship typically equals premarital love.

Many adult humans the natural way wish gender. And regardless of the rightwing increased exposure of guidelines like “purity”, making love does not even make your a dirty or “impure” people. On the other hand, gender is much like the majority of enjoyable items in our lives – you’ll have love in ways which can be enjoyable, enjoyable, excellent and favorable, also, you can make love with techniques which can be detrimental, negative and hazardous. Nuptials just isn’t, and it has never been, an effective way to combat the harmful, negative and unsafe capabilities of sex (merely browse the scripture when you need a couple of advice). Versus fooling yourself into convinced that holding out until relationship can make love “good”, we must pay attention to how ethical, accountable sex-related tactics – having safety measures to defend the mental and physical health of your self plus spouse; sexual intercourse which completely consensual and focused entirely on shared pleasure – come with becoming an ethical, responsible person.

Erectile morality isn’t really about how extended your hold off. It’s about the method that you deal with on your own together with the individuals you are with.

Sex, definitely, isn’t all horses and rainbows. America has one of the top unintended maternity rate in this field. We certainly have one of several highest termination charge. We’ve on the list of highest costs of intimately carried issues. But our very own trouble with sex seriously isn’t that we’re getting it before relationships; it really is that many of us’ve shed it as shameful and dirty. And when our very own collective cultural consciousness claims that love is shameful and filthy, we don’t possess the incentive – and/or gear– to plan for sexual intercourse, observe it as having a positive obligation and also make healthier intimate selection.

What About the Other 90%??

What's Inside?

  • An understanding of why women choose the men they choose
  • The purpose for which a woman was created
  • A little about Chanda’s life
  • Insight into the basic needs of a woman
  • How powerful a man can be in a woman’s life


When Chanda Mitchell told me that she was going to write a book on the 90% that women are missing out on from men, I was intrigued by the title, “What About the Other 90%?” I thought the title was extremely thought provoking and the question needed to be asked and addressed and answered and not by a man but by another woman who’s been living it out in real time.

In our society we desperately need women authors to rise up and speak to the heart of where their readers live through every day and bring answers to the table that make sense.

Wray Wade
City Council Member at City of Longview

Ms. Mitchell was a welcoming addition to my media team during my re-election campaign for Longview City Council. Most recently she assisted me with interviews with a local television station, which went incredibly well.

Haley Brooke Griffin
Owner of DuBeck& Co

Awesome program! They really helped me with business ideas and even gained business for me. Great experience with Momentum Builders, LLC..

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